Why do I call myself asexual?
I’m a fan of queer theory and the idea of doing instead of being, I want to question every norm, label and definition and not ever settle down. I should always be ready to change my ideas and views
so why am I clinging to this one word that I constantly use to describe myself with? It’s the one word that I really identify with, while words like Swedish, panromantical, trans, Christian are words I use to make it possible for others to somewhat understand who I am. In a certain context it may be helpful if I explain that I was born in and has always lived in Sweden, sometimes it might be necessary to explain that my attraction is not based on gender. I do not have the same emotional attachment to these words, while “asexual” have become a very important word in my life.
Why?
Because in many people’s minds it’s impossible for romantic love to exist without sex. They haven’t even thought about it but they’re convinced that you cannot have a strong and meaningful relationship with someone if you don’t have sex with that person. That the sexual relationship is more important than any other besides the relationship to your own children.
I want to change that, and in order to do so I have to establish the word “asexual”. If people learn that word they will also know there are other possibilities. Even if they consider it a disease, it’s better than not knowing about it at all. It’s better if my way of life is considered abnormal than not being considered possible at all.
